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011._Restoring_Relationships_-_Confront_the_Problem,_Not_the
[PD Devotional] 11. Restoring Relationships - Confront the Problem...
011. Restoring Relationships - Confront the Problem, Not the Person “A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire” (Proverbs 15:1, Msg). The fifth biblical step toward restoring a relationship is to attack the problem, not the person. You cannot solve the problem if you're consumed with pinning the blame. You must set your bitterness aside in order to mend your friendship. You will never get your point across by being cross, so choose your words wisely. A soft answer is always better than a sarcastic one. In resolving conflict, how you say something is as important as what you say. If you say it offensively, it will be received defensively. God tells us, "A wise, mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is" (Proverbs 16:21 TEV). Nagging never works. You are never persuasive when you're abrasive. During the Cold War, both sides agreed that some weapons were so destructive they should never be used. For the sake of fellowship, you must destroy your arsenal of relational nuclear weapons, including condemning, belittling, comparing, labeling, insulting, condescending, and being sarcastic. Paul sums it up this way: "Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you" (Ephesians 4:29 TEV). ============================= key expressions ================================== be consumed with: ~로 소진되다 pin: (┅에게 사태의 처리•결단 등을) 강요하다. set ~ aside : 제쳐두다, 거절하다 across : 이해되게, 알아주도록 (ex. He couldn’t get the idea across to the class.) cross: 교차된, 까다로운, 성마른 sarcastic: 빈정거리는, 비꼬는, 신랄한 nag : 잔소리, 잔소리꾼 abrasive: 마찰을 일으키는, 신경을 건드리는 arsenal: 병기고, 군수품 condem: 비난하다, 유죄판결을 내리다 label: 딱지를 붙이다, 라벨, 호칭 condescending : 겸손한; 짐짓 겸손하게 구는, 생색을 부리는. ============================= today’s expressions =============================== In resolving conflict, how you say something is as important as what you say.
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